Attachment Theory: Is There A Bigger Picture?

From Childhood Roots to Cultural Contexts — Rethinking Our Understanding of Human Connection and Development

Sacha | Thoughts


My daughter and I a few years back (she’s grown now!)

Attachment theory, originating from the meticulous observations and analyses of Mary Ainsworth and John Bowlby, provides a compelling narrative of human relational dynamics.

It posits that the qualitative aspects of our initial bonds — those formed in the tender years of infancy and childhood, with our primary caregivers — serve as the template upon which our future relationships are moulded.

These early interactions, and whether they are imbued with affection, neglect, consistency, or inconsistency, are instrumental in sculpting our relational lives, familial affiliations, and indeed, our core psychology.

Consequently, understanding attachment styles and issues can be useful for understanding the nuances of human interaction, affection, and social development.

My knowledge of this field came about after the birth of my third child.

I was by then, post 30, with a little life experience and significantly more education than that which I’d had when I began parenting in my teens.

With my older children now 12 and 8 respectively, I’d begun to glean that there might be a better way of parenting than the model I’d been given.

Consequently, the parenting of my youngest two children looks very different to that which my older two initially received.

My experience in this respect means that I’m now a big advocate for prospective parents learning about attachment theory, with the insights they provide in how to raise emotionally and psychologically healthy kids.

But that all said, my more recently developed view is that a sociological lens is also necessary and useful for considering these theories in their appropriate context too.

The edifice of psychology, as robust as it may appear in many respects, is not immune to the influences of cultural biases and presuppositions, with these constructs oftentimes constraining the interpretation and application of these theories.



Sacha | Thoughts

Sociologist and writer focused on analysing societal power dynamics and promoting positive social change