Sacha | Thoughts
1 min readOct 4, 2021

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I had exactly the same thought when I heard those words. Having been in a domestically abusive relationship as a young woman (left husband when I was 23 with two kids already in tow), this kind of condescension / infantilisation is something I had to deal with through my 20s. Still happens in the family court in my 30s really (my abusive / narcissistic ex continues to stalk more than a dozen years later). My decade as a lawyer, various postgrad (including a top honours masters in law and other postgrad in sociology, international relations, human rights etc.), not to mention experience as a mum of four now, apparently still don’t qualify me to be talked to like a full human being. My ex husband though - white, male, privileged - who has filed over 50 different applications through the years (ie it’s not me filing and I walked away from relationship property / anything else I could avoid fighting over) is talked to with respect though. Not a one judge issue either - the majority have been this way.

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Sacha | Thoughts

Sociologist and writer focused on analysing societal power dynamics and promoting positive social change