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I too was 19 when I met my 33 year old, now (long since) ex husband. The experience was horrific. The issue is about power and control: when you are a teen / early 20s, you are more “mould-able”. Unfortunately for my ex husband, once I began to explore and understand the world, I came to understand that I didn’t want to be the dutiful partner he wanted, who would attend to all his needs, before or to the exclusion of my own.

Your issue here is that if it is narcissism driving your friends relationship choice (as it was for my ex partner and often is in these situations), then there is little you’ll be able to achieve through rationalisation.

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Sacha | Thoughts

Sociologist and writer focused on analysing societal power dynamics and promoting positive social change